Narcissists Are People Too
I had a great awakening very early on a Tuesday morning while brewing my morning sip. Some might refer to this as a “download”, I usually call it a ‘realization’. But this morning it all came in so clearly, so swiftly…I had to grab my journal, it was flowing in faster than I could write.
I’ve been asking my guide team/Spiritual Posse to please be clearer with me on any messages that will help me take the steps to stay in alignment with my life's purpose. Once I realized that I receive it viscerally, I’ve been practicing self-trust over my analytical mind.
Boy, did it come through clear this morning whilst brewing my sip! And Fast!
It all came in as a visceral “knowing”, flowing through me. But as I am still newly coming into this awareness of receiving clarity from my guides, I have still been confirming the validity of these messages, so I went to the web to find the definition of Narcissist and scrolled down to the symptoms section, which I’ve included at the end of this writing.
It is all so clear to me now… As a receiver, or ‘experiencer’ of narcissistic behavior for most of my life, I have lived by the false narrative that Narcissists are monsters. I have been corrected.
Now, I choose not to take the stance of victim, and I choose to believe that those of us with the symptoms of trauma, who may not be aware of our similar symptoms of narcissism, are not monsters but rather people that have simply surviving life the only way we know how until we become willing to allow Light to shine into the cracks of the wounds and start to heal them. Every illumination of Light on the wounds of my soul allows me to remove my masks and reveal my true power.
Journal Entry 4/28/26
Good morning, beautiful day.
I think I ate something bad yesterday…my bowels have been busy since just before bed last night. Good thing I have some charcoal to help clear it out and I opted for Yerba Maté with Hibiscus over coffee this morning.
Ok, now…to get to this message coming in. Narcissists are people too! Some people make them out to be monsters. But in reality they are just generational victims of other narcissists. It’s a maddening cycle of people raised by other trauma-experienced people.
A narcissist tries to control other people through manipulation, passive-aggressiveness, mental & verbal beratement and may not even know they are doing it. They are really just trying to live in relation with other people the way they were raised. The only way they know.
We have been living in a world where trauma has been the main driver and result of our “stuck” survival mechanism.
Think about it…We’ve been living in a world of patriarchal force…warring, killing, control by the church, government, and ruling forces for centuries…millennia. There’s a cycle of Trauma written into history.
In an attempt to feel a sense of safety people try to control their life, usually from a place of FEAR, whether acknowledged as fear or not. (Fear that has been bred into us, conditioned into us, projected onto us.)
This can show up as actions or attempts to control other people, whether through manipulation, lies, and false narratives, all in an attempt to control their experiences in order to feel safe. And I would bet 99% of this is unconscious behavior.
On a grand scale it looks like this… When the most “powerful” of a society starts to fear losing their hierarchy, they use lies, manipulation, and force to control the population from gaining, or realizing their own power.
This history has repeated itself many, many times over, generation after generation. Our DNA carries that fear & control energy down through the generations of our human evolution.
As the world has become more and more populated, the narcissists gene, for a lack of better words, branches out and down through traumatic experiences stemming from fear of “lack of control”.
If you think about it, nearly all people have some level of traumatic experiences. Little t or big T. And most, if not all, of those experiences can be traced back to some sort of experience with narcissism. Whether the experience came from the highest level of hierarchy like directly from those that “create the rules” or a smaller branch of hierarchy, like in a work or family dynamic.
It all trickles down stream. So, most people who have experienced trauma rooted in fear & control, and quite possibly have felt the repercussions with symptoms of disempowerment, shame and self-blame, have learned on a subconscious level that if you can control other people you will be safe and you can control whether your experience of life is pleasurable or painful.
I don’t know the exact percentage, but I presume a great number of people who have experienced any type of trauma try to control their life so they don’t experience that trauma or a different trauma again.
They do this by trying to control those closest to them. Then those “controlees” experience the trauma of mental, emotional, and sometimes physical abuse and manipulation and therefore learn through example (especially when young), how to try to avoid more trauma by striving to control their own experience of life through manipulating those that surround them. It’s a maddening cycle of trauma, perceived lack of power and fear.
This world has literally gotten so out of control due to its own need for control.
So how do we end this insane cycle?
Contemplation on our own individual actions & reactions. Awareness and acceptance of our own individual experiences of trauma or Trauma and taking (W)holistic action, and getting professional help when needed, to heal and release them. Stepping out of the ditch of Victimhood and Martyrdom to step onto the platform of Personal Sovereignty.
It is human nature to strive for pleasure and avoid pain. So many people do this, to varying degrees, through manipulation because they fear losing control of their situations, losing power.
The truth is, we are ALL equally powerful in our own unique way. We can all realize this and tap into our own personal power within.
By firstly becoming aware that it IS possible to heal this affliction, by being willing to heal, with an open mind, by asking for help if needed, and by taking accountable action toward stepping out of the stance of need for control, hierarchy, superiority, lack of control, inferiority, victimhood, martyrdom…All stemming from FEAR, you don’t only benefit from healing on a personal level…we heal and awaken as a collective. Our consciousness rises and the consciousness of the world has no choice but to rise too.
By deciding to live from the heart, in LOVE, with trust in ourselves and discernable trust in others, with a passion for equality, compassion, empathy, service to each other, we begin to unravel the knot of FEAR & control.
The tiny branches of generational trauma stop growing and healing begins to flow backwards through soul generations. The souls that come back to this 3rd dimensional experience to heal their past negative karmic patterns start coming back to live purposefully in making this planet a better place to live on a universal level.
It may appear dark and gloomy right now. It may appear to get darker before it gets lighter. But look around…See that the rise in Earth consciousness has already begun. Enlightened souls are already returning, look at the little ones, see their love and light, nurture it. See the people who are awakening in numbers never before seen in history.
I love you Creator, Spirit Guides, Highest Self, Human Me. Thank you, Thank you, Thank you.
So that was that. Like I said..I’ve been asking for clear signs…clarity for so many years! But once I realized I wasn't gonna hear an actual voice or be shown a physically illuminated path, I’ve been learning to let go of my analytical mind and trust my inner knowing and my somatic truth.
Hi, my name is Rose Velasco, Somatic Truth Coach and Soul Reclamation Guide.
I’ve been exploring my inner world and navigating by my somatic truth and embodying my highest self in sovereignty.
You are POWERFUL, don’t let anyone convince you otherwise. You have direct access to Universal Consciousness, no middle man needed. You get to choose how you think, what you see, how you live. Choose Love over Fear and watch your life change.
If this content resonates with you, I look forward to seeing you around. I am now teaching the methods I have been living by with my newly evolved business Somatic Truth Living™. You can catch me on my website, the FB, IG, YouTube and in-person workshops and future retreats.
On the other hand, if this content does not resonate with you, I wish you the very best and I’m ok if you go a different way, we are all rising together in our own unique way.
✨Jai Bhagwan✨
In much Love and Gratitude,
🌹Rose Velasco
